p.s. Really, that is the distillation of the efforts of an entire lifetime trying to get alcoholics (and other unpleasant people) to not drink so much or be so mean to me, to be more open to intimacy or see it my way, or keep up a meditation practice or pick up their clothes. People do change but slowly and in our own time, and many psychotherapists and Teachers have wished they could help that change; sometimes they do, but it is in our own hands, and the mechanism that makes us deliberately walk out of our old ways is mysterious.
Since that is still a very short post, I thought I'd kick in something else, a brief book review. I've been given a number of review copies of Buddhist-themed books, and I've reviewed only a few because I am picky. But I want to mention a book I am enjoying called Journeys on the Silk Road. This is not an erotic memoir, though it would be a good title, but a history subtitled "A desert explorer, Buddha's secret library, and the unearthing of the world's oldest book."
|Aurel Stein expedition; that's Dash front and center|
Other than that, I have few ideas about Christmas, except that it doesn't make sense for a celebration, especially if it's religious, to be stressful. It's not for me anymore, now that my family of origin is out of the picture. How I suffered trying to please them! always thinking maybe this will do it. That seems to circle back around to my title, trying to get people to love you that don't. There you are.