|It's autumn here.|
How do I do it? end up looking at these articles on 7 Things Successful People Do Different From You Lazy Slobs? In any case, here's one smelling up my inbox with sentences like this:
Successful people have a drive, a greediness, a push to get something done you could even call self-centered.As you know, in my religion greed is considered a poison. We don't cultivate it. On the personal side, I've known a few entrepreneurs, and I think the description is fair. They're always alert for a way to make money. In a particularly cool move, one of them once let us pick up the check for dinner, but asked for the receipt so he could write it off on his taxes. I am not making that up.
A little further on I get this (I'm rewriting but retaining the essence):
Less successful people let anything drift into their environments—they don't control their lives. The average person only writes down their goals once a year.I note here that "less successful people" are "average." Oh my. And only make big resolutions once a year. I, on the other hand, have resolved today to take a shower. I did resolve to get a haircut, but Kenneth isn't in on Tuesdays. So I tried to schedule a haircut with him so tomorrow doesn't drift like this, but it's not like that - he takes his book home with him. So I drifted into the environment of no haircut today. Blown around like a fallen leaf. Lest I get self-critical about this,
What struck me most about the article was the difference between the self-centered vows of the Highly Successful and the vows handwritten on a card propped on the windowsill over my kitchen sink. They are a sort of mantra, a variation on lovingkindness meditation, from Kristin Neff's book, Self-Compassion, which I mentioned recently:
May I be safe.
May I be peaceful.
May I be kind to myself.
May I accept myself as I am.
Such small goals, in the Eastern tradition of humility. Yet how large for all those who were abused or neglected or taught always to put others first and ignore their own needs. And by the way, the vow to be safe kept me from recklessly scheduling a haircut with some unknown person. Been there.
The writer on Success did say something I agreed with:
Every day presents an opportunity to set and reach goals regardless of how large or small they are.Recently I read that achieving any goal gives us a good little hit of feel-good chemicals. A kind of starburst in the old neurochemistry. Small achievements are something I pay attention to, since I am prone to letting myself drift, as the Ambition writer would say, into the environment of a merciless depression, and that doesn't get you anywhere. Set a small enough goal, like Take a shower. Do it. Take a moment to pat your own back. If you are lucky, you can actually reach over your shoulder and do that, which will make you smile.
That's all I know today. Please enjoy your drifting.