|A good laugh helps, though|
But I've been accused of being negative because I complain sometimes about the new losses of ability that just keep coming at me as I age. Can't wear pretty shoes. Can't travel without great fuss and discomfort. Always hurt somewhere. Can't drink even a little wine - it interacts with my meds and makes me dizzy and sleepy. Said meds have increased my appetite and I gained ten pounds this summer before I knew what was happening. And do not forget the bipolar disorder, which is now predictably one day up, one day down. The down days are hard just to get through, just to endure. If a down day coincides with a stress like a friend's funeral, it sets me spiraling further down and I get in trouble. And so on, and on.
Who would like this crap?
That's my point. Yes, you can see these as learning experiences. Bad luck and trouble can help you extend compassion to others with similar experiences. It keeps putting mortality in your face; that doesn't feel good but it is good, I guess. Maybe I won't be so shocked when it turns out that I die, too. So yes, there are ways to gain from unpleasant experiences. Fine. That doesn't mean you have to like them. Sometimes, complaining is in order. I know complaining sometimes helps me bond with my equally aging and just occasionally cranky friends.
As far as I'm concerned, a good attitude is the Zen attitude: being open all the way to experience, accepting its reality. That is actually part of what we do when we sit in meditation. It is often uncomfortable enough to make people drift away from the practice. But if you accept reality, you can deal with it in reasonable ways. If you're in denial about unpleasant truths, or determined to win impossible battles, that's when you really get in trouble and create trouble all around you.
That's all I know.