A kidney-failure friend just lost "my altruistic donor," who already gave a kidney to someone else.  He intends to keep searching hard for a donor.  He writes, "There's always a way if you work at it."  I wouldn't say this to him, but I thought, Yes, there is a way things are going to happen, but sometimes that way is not the way you want.  That's when your spiritual practice really comes into play.