tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123326368423499292.post619359430487642554..comments2023-10-08T08:48:18.513-04:00Comments on The Dalai Grandma: What Not to Do (to Me)Jeanne Desyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07800258273705288582noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123326368423499292.post-15165902891899917322012-11-10T10:57:39.370-05:002012-11-10T10:57:39.370-05:00So true. I'm seeing that the easy way is the ...So true. I'm seeing that the easy way is the heart way - if you really attend to other people and have compassion, you will not do harm. (They still might think you have poor manners, though, if you are too honest.)Jeanne Desyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07800258273705288582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123326368423499292.post-66719216525258735052012-11-09T15:17:07.407-05:002012-11-09T15:17:07.407-05:00This smells like shenpa to me! :) Have you seen t...This smells like shenpa to me! :) Have you seen this transcript of a talk by Pema Chodron about shenpa?<br />http://www.shambhala.org/teachers/pema/shenpa3a.php<br /><br />And it's always a treat to quote Ms. Manners if the opportunity presents itself:<br />http://www.smithsonianmag.com/arts-culture/Q-and-A-with-Miss-Manners.html<br /><br />"What is etiquette? And why is it so important?<br />It’s important because we can’t stand the way that other people treat us. Although we want the right to be able to behave in any way we want. Somehow a compromise is in order, if you want to live in communities. If you live on a mountaintop by yourself, it’s not necessary. I make a distinction between manners and etiquette—manners as the principles, which are eternal and universal, etiquette as the particular rules which are arbitrary and different in different times, different situations, different cultures."<br /><br />"Is it ever acceptable to be rude?<br />No. Now, that doesn’t mean you have to let people walk all over you. Etiquette does not render you defenseless. If it did; even I wouldn’t subscribe to it. But rudeness in retaliation for rudeness just doubles the amount of rudeness in the world." <br /><br />And I say...<br />It's annoying and amazing to me how complicated it is to live with other human beings, and how what appears petty on the surface can be profound.<br /><br /><br /><br />Melanie from Austin, TXnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123326368423499292.post-7216347378039252702012-11-07T21:08:48.324-05:002012-11-07T21:08:48.324-05:00At the time I did laugh and sort of make a joke of...At the time I did laugh and sort of make a joke of it. But it made me uncomfortable. I am what I am, karmically hypersensitive.Jeanne Desyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07800258273705288582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123326368423499292.post-69014235762248851112012-11-07T18:20:34.852-05:002012-11-07T18:20:34.852-05:00People like this do it with people they love, too ...People like this do it with people they love, too and karma has the final say usually bringing bigger problems with this habit. Maybe when you laugh you bring up yours(mine,too/talking to me/) own silly habits to aid in generating humor.<br />In the grand scheme of things one never gets off..think Donald Trump.Was Oncehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14997943977882019444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123326368423499292.post-9061967669372278862012-11-07T17:09:29.323-05:002012-11-07T17:09:29.323-05:00Maybe I would do that if I were at a podium. But ...Maybe I would do that if I were at a podium. But in everyday life I'm not sure it's good for people to let them get away with stuff. Jeanne Desyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07800258273705288582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123326368423499292.post-45554862159491018572012-11-07T09:31:35.175-05:002012-11-07T09:31:35.175-05:00Just smile and laugh and say Thank you...it will d...Just smile and laugh and say Thank you...it will defuse the momentum.<br />Not with any sign of sarcasmWas Oncehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14997943977882019444noreply@blogger.com