tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123326368423499292.post3064221770668138907..comments2023-10-08T08:48:18.513-04:00Comments on The Dalai Grandma: What to Do With the Mean RedsJeanne Desyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07800258273705288582noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123326368423499292.post-74096432332115466042012-12-13T10:41:36.514-05:002012-12-13T10:41:36.514-05:00I find myself thinking of people who can address t...I find myself thinking of people who can address their pain with alcohol, partying, work, and manage to rise away from it, to numb themselves to it. It is really very fortunate to hurt so damn much you break out and cry out. <br />I recall a story that Suzuki was asked what he would say on his deathbed, and replied, "Ouch!" Pain is. I've had many times when I understood that dying could be a relief.Jeanne Desyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07800258273705288582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123326368423499292.post-19878806399442459012012-12-13T10:38:22.159-05:002012-12-13T10:38:22.159-05:00I feel so empathetic to your reply that I haven...I feel so empathetic to your reply that I haven't thought of a way to respond, just to listen. Thank you for being here, reading what I write.Jeanne Desyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07800258273705288582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123326368423499292.post-39645115986649722422012-12-11T06:43:44.470-05:002012-12-11T06:43:44.470-05:00Dear Dalai Grandma,
Glad your feeling better, mi...Dear Dalai Grandma, <br /><br />Glad your feeling better, missed you, thought of you, and can't express my gratitude enough for your practice, right where you are; my teachers are showing me how to wear those black robes, but you are showing me something unique- how to live with this intense pain. <br /><br />Suzuki Roshi said things that are dying teach best. What about things that are in severe pain? I think he meant that, because as he turned yellow with cancer, he lay on his back in the zendo, and died on the first day of rohatsu, dying and pain were probably not too separate. <br /><br />Really, really cherish you, <br /><br />love,<br />KogenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123326368423499292.post-32790741005652370152012-12-11T00:01:06.741-05:002012-12-11T00:01:06.741-05:00Having a similar childhood, there are times when I...Having a similar childhood, there are times when I am furious at being a blank slate for which my father could toy with based on his own problems, and a mother who said, "It will be all OK, with a bloody nose." It is very difficult to uncondition yourself when it is was firmly established after years of emotional abuse....things come up of weakness, lack of comfort and happiness. Oh, I had to be the man for my brother and sisters at a young age, thus almost ending any normalcy, and thus spending my 20's trying to recreate a childhood of sorts. Some sparks come back with things now, I should just normally brush off if my childhood conditions were supportive. But there it is, and there is no turning back, and I am going on my next 10-day vipassana to "wear out my thinker" and find that peace that lies within. But there are worse childhoods than mine, like my partner who was abandoned at birth, by both parents...and tossed to some village elders who were unrelated to be raised who had no money, meaning no food and clothes. <br /><br /><br /><br />Was Oncehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14997943977882019444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123326368423499292.post-28489606592691440452012-12-10T19:37:44.391-05:002012-12-10T19:37:44.391-05:00Thank you - I feel better already. Actually, in co...Thank you - I feel better already. Actually, in coming to that ending I sort of got it.Jeanne Desyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07800258273705288582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123326368423499292.post-11245023691706379022012-12-10T19:33:00.819-05:002012-12-10T19:33:00.819-05:00Sounds like wonderful insight and understanding to...Sounds like wonderful insight and understanding to me ...Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08911929498506499657noreply@blogger.com